October 7, 2024
By Laurie Stearns Selby, Phoenix Symphony Cello
I have had the privilege of playing my cello at hospice care facilities with my friend and colleague, Fred Chao, for many years. To be in the presence of these patients who have anywhere from days to months left to live is challenging. I say, “challenging” because it is so difficult to feel the sadness of the patient and the family as we enter their space, but we know what we are gifting them with; the music that will uplift their spirits. It happens every time. Like some sort of magic, but it’s not. It is the power, the joy, the relatability of music.
“Bringing comfort and joy to those who are dying is a great honor for me. It makes a career in music all worthwhile. Playing for clients in hospice as part of The Phoenix Symphony outreach programs has been a wonderful experience. The appreciation of the hospice patients and their families is more than matched by the joy that I feel in playing for them.”
-Fred Chao, Phoenix Symphony Cello
My all-time favorite experience was when we played for a patient that had not spoken, opened her eyes, or reacted to any stimuli in weeks. We played for almost 20 minutes with no response. As we played our last piece, “Amazing Grace,” this woman lifted her head, opened her eyes and sang the hymn as we played. Two verses!
This is one of the most profound moments in my entire 42-year career with the Phoenix Symphony.
“Music acts like a magic key, to which the most tightly closed heart opens.”
-Maria von Trapp
I would also like to say a word about hospice. I have great respect for these caregivers who provide such loving, professional palliative care to their patients. I am so blessed and grateful to be a part of this team of caring individuals.
